||ZanAmu: American/European/Asian/... Wives of Iranian Men - FAQ
Any suggestions on books for learning Farsi? For Children?
How can I contact my ex husband in Khoy Iran?
Need advice on how to find ex-husband in Iran
was married to an Iranian man from Khoy Azerbaijan for 3 years.
We were best friends for 3 years before that. After we married
we had alot of ups and downs. We were both grad students and under
lots of stress with little money and no jobs, my family didn't approve
and there was alot of negativity against Iranians, etc. Eventually we
divorced. He went back to Iran and for a couple of years after he went
back he would call me and write to me and I would do the same. But after
awhile I felt like it would be healthier for me to just make a break and I
relocated several times and didn't let him know and lost his address/phones
which at the time I felt like was for the best. But now several years later
I have been thinking about him and I know we are not getting together but I
just wish I could know that he is happy and healthy and has a good life
because for a long time he was a very important part of my life even though
we didn't always get along. and I have a happy good life now too. But the
problem is how can I find him? I have searched through my papers, I have
tried to remember his address and I cannot. All I can remember is that it
was Khoy and he had a sister in Tabriz that I used to talk to on the phone
and I cannot remember her name. I think Khoy is small but if I just sent
a letter with his name and the city would he get it and I would not want to
cause any problem or embarrassement for him because I do know that many
people love to gossip. I have tried to find something on the Internet
without any luck. Any advice would be very appreciated. Thank you so much.
I wish this group had been around when I was married I think it would have
helped me alot.
- Thanks, Cate
Traditions/rituals used in Persian wedding ceremonies
I am an American-born Jewish woman who is marrying a Iran-born Persian
man who has been living in the US since 1975.
We would like our ceremony to honor and combine our respective ethnic
heritages (as opposed to our religions). Could you please suggest a few
of the traditions/rituals used in Persian wedding ceremonies along with
explanations of their symbolism?
We're also interested in possibly having Persian poetry about love
and/or marriage read as an integral part of our ceremony. Any
Thank you very much for your kind assistance...
We are moving to South Carolina... Any Persian community, Restaurants,...?
I am a Caucasian Catholic woman, engaged to an Iranian man.... we will be living in South Carolina and I
wish to know if there are any Persian communities... restaurants...
activities in this state.
I would appreciate any information or suggestions you might have.. or simply
to hear any feedback you might can offer.
Thank you for your help.
You can find list of Persian restaurants in NC at;
There is one restaurants in Charlotte North Carolina and another in Chapel Hill.
These would be the best starting point. I am not sure how far away they are from
South Carolina but I guess you can call them and ask about any
Persian Grocery, as well as local Persian clubs, etc.
There is also an Iranian Christian group at Raleigh which might be able to provide some help.
I hope you can get plenty of useful info from these sources.
Love A Moslem: A Support Group for Christian Women Dating or Married to Muslims
-- I am one of the moderators for Love a Muslim (LaM) at
http://www.domini.org/lam/, an on-line support group for mostly Ch
women either dating or married to a Muslim.
I enjoyed visiting your site and I read all the letters. I find ZanAmu
very interesting, useful and complementary to our site LaM.
The "Loving a Muslim" (LaM) mailing list is a forum and support group for
non-Muslim women (mostly Christian) dating or married to Muslim men.
he purpose is to share our experiences and questions among ourselves,
earn from each other and encourage each other.
Please visit our site and join LaM mailing list to participate.
American Wives of Lebanese or Arabs??
I found your website on Farsinet and am contacting you in case you might be
able to help me. I am American; my husband is from Lebanon. I love his
culture and embrace it but am hoping that you may know of organizations that
are similar to yours (american wives of Lebanese or Arabs).
Please let me know if you can help. Thank you. By the way, I think your
site is wonderful.
How to Make A Chador??
HELLO. COULD YOU PLEASE TELL ME WHAT THE BASIC SHAPE OF A CHADOR IS?
HALF-MOON PERHAPS? IF SO, HOW BIG DOES ONE CUT OF BLACK MATERIAL? DO YOU
MEASURE YOUR HEIGHT? AGAIN, IS SIMPLY A BLACK HALF-CIRCLE CLOTH? PLEASE
ANSWER SOON. THANK YOU!
Mercy for visiting ZanAmu.
Here is the info I got from one of ZanAmu members regarding Chador;
Chador: It is a half-circle shape and the base of the half circle cloth
should be 2 times the height of the person. In other words, the radius
of the half circle should be the same as the height of the person who is
going to wear the Chador.
Hope you find this info useful.
Alhamdulillah I found your site as I really confused about married with Iranian
guy. We just married a couple months ago. I'm from Indonesia. There's allot of
thing that I must learn about him and about his culture. It hard for me because
I don't have anybody here as we both live in Canada now. I really want to learn
about how to make Iranian food. Because my husband want me to learn it. Beside
it so hard to find halal food in this country, so I must cook at home.
I really need your help or anybody who know what good food they usually made, or
any Iranian recipe... please email me. Thanks a lot. May Allah bless you... -
What is the Procedure for Getting Married??
Dear Great Ladies,
Let me introduce myself by giving you ladies a warm hug.
I am Vaishnavee and I am an Malaysian.
Actualy, I am very happy to find this web-site. I didn't know who to
ask as I badly need help. Let me get straight to the point.
My fiance's name is Mehdi and we plan to get married very
soon. The only problem is that we both don't know the procedures.
Mehdi went to the Iranian Embassy here in Malaysia but they were
telling him that it is best if we get married in Malaysia.
Again arises a small problem as I am not a Muslim by nature.
So, we both, Mehdi and I want to know what should we do.
And I also think that getting married in Malaysia takes a longer time
because the govt. doesn't give preference for that. But I must tell
you that I am very blur about this matter as I know the best place to
find out is you people because you were the same like me at one time.
I would be very glad if you could help us out.
If you have any questions about us, please do not at all hesitate to
Thank you Ladies,
How about Foreign husbands of Iranian wives?
Dear Zanamu --
Anything for the reverse: foreign husbands of Iranian wives? Given
traditional strictures against cultural exogamy for Iranian women, we may
not be legion, but there are four of us (banded together) in Tallahassee,
Florida alone -- all quite appreciative of the treasure we hold and
fascinated, sometimes frustrated, by the cultural differences.
From: H. Darvish
I am agree with Peter. Why don't you put a home page for Iranian
women married to foreign men . I want to hear about Iranian women
married to foreign men too. Accept it.
To: H. Darvish
Mercy for visiting ZanAmu page.
I agree with you that Iranian women married to foreign men should have
a similar forum.
As you probably know, we don't do our page ourselves, FarsiNet takes care of
all updates, etc. We have had couple other similar suggestions which we passed
on to FarsiNet. They agreed to host it under their Non-profit Org program
but they need somebody(s) to start the page by providing a statement of
purpose, set of goals, a few of their own personal experiences, issues, etc
to get it started. For ZanAmu page, there are three of us ladies (2 in Calif
and 1 in London). We receive ZanAmu's emails and respond to them. Some of
the emails that are general and possibly valuable to others, we send them to
FarsiNet to be included in our page. Soooo, I guess you can do the same.
If you are interested send some starting material to firstname.lastname@example.org.
If we can be of any help just send your email to email@example.com and a
zanamu will get back to you.
Mercy Va Moaffaq Bashid, ZanAmu
Any American Women Married to Iranian Men In Tampa Area??
I am interested in hearing from American women married to Iranian men that
in the Tampa (Florida, USA) area. Is anyone active in Iranian cultural activities/groups?
anyone be interested in joining such a group to learn more about Persian
Thank you. Linda
What should I do for my boy friend's birthday?
I'm looking what is a traditional birthday celebration, i.e. birthday cake
or pasties, song. What is a traditional birthday celebration for an
Iranian. My boyfriend's birthday is July 24 and I'd like to do something
special for him.
If you have any good ideas please send me an E-Mail